Who am I?
Have you ever sat back and asked yourself, “Who am I and why am I here?”
These are two of the most important questions that you will ever ask yourself. Unlocking the answers will require you to go inward and the do some deep diving and life changing work.
The reality is that, if you don’t know who you are or what you want from life, you will only wander around, aimlessly.
The greatest discovery in life is self-discovery.
I used to be the person who passively moved throughout life. I wasn’t thriving. Rather, I was just surviving. I wasn’t ready to face my deepest fears and most limiting beliefs. My core belief about myself was that I only had worth and value when I was serving others or giving of myself. For a long time, this story of who I was controlled every aspect of my life and left me feeling empty, never good enough, and unworthy of love from others.
In effect, I didn’t know who I was aside from this role I had assumed so whole heartedly.
Not surprisingly, this mindset paralyzed me and prevented me from moving forward into the person I was destined to be. It wasn’t until I hit rock bottom that I decided to embark on a journey of self-discovery and find out. I soon realized that if I wanted to transform my life, I had to be okay with letting go of the person I thought I was.
This was difficult to accept and a very vulnerable place to be. I often felt alone and judged.
However, sometimes it takes hitting your emotional threshold before you are ready to change your life. Once I found the world of personal awareness, I realized that the person I used to be was no longer the wholeness to my present way of living and being. I learned that I was destined for more. That I could still be a loving wife and mother and in addition to this role I could also live from the deepest part of my soul.
I think a lot of people get stuck in the story of being lost and lacking in purpose, to the point that they don’t know how to change their circumstances by simply changing their mindset. They assume that they only have one identity and that it’s fixed. This is far from true.
Your passions are what lead you to your purpose. If you dig deep enough, the answers will come naturally. However, you’ve got to be willing to stop over-thinking. You will not find your purpose by reading a book or listening to a podcast. You only find it by taking action in the direction of what lights you up.
“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you’re not going to stay where you are.” — Unknown
If you really want to achieve wholeness and live a more meaningful life, stop searching for purpose and start living in alignment with it. This means committing to constant and never-ending awareness and curiosity so that you can find out as much as possible about yourself and the world around you.
Question everything and get curious about your life. Ask yourself, “What makes me come alive inside?” Once you have tapped into what this looks and feels like, think about what steps you can take in order to turn your desires into actions.
Lastly, step outside of your comfort zone as much as possible and do things that create fulfillment for you. What makes your hands sweat and your heart pound? Anything that reminds your body what it feels like to be alive. These are things that are long lasting and sustainable for the betterment of you and your life.
As Andy Molinsky says in his book, Reach: A New Strategy to Help You Step Outside Your Comfort Zone, “No one likes to move beyond their comfort zone, but as the saying goes, that’s where the magic happens. It’s where we can grow, learn, and develop in a way that expands our horizons beyond what we thought was possible.”
Who am I and why am I here?
Only you can answer these questions. When you discover your personal mission in life, I promise that it will radically alter the way that you connect with yourself and others. More importantly, it will empower you to live your life on purpose every single day.
“The two most important days in your life is the day you are born and the day you find out why.” — Mark Twain
Finding my purpose and living in alignment with it has changed everything for me. My relationship with my children is deeper and more intentional. My connection with my friends and family is more authentic and sincere. My own personal relationship with myself is more tender and loving, and my connection with my Father in Heaven is more deep and meaningful. I feel blessed every single day that I have deep purpose and meaning alive within me.
So if you ask yourself the question, how do I find myself?
Start by saying yes to the things that light you up and begin to develop that familiar belonging inside your soul. Watch your life transform and become even more beautiful than it already is.